Adoption: The Primal Wound That Shapes Everything.

A Clairvoyant's Guide to Finding the Child Who Was Left Behind.

The Primal Wound

Spiritual guidance for those given up for adoption.

Adoption runs deep. It is indeed a primal wound... until you accept that it is a primal wound...then go back for the child.

Otherwise, shame has the potential to shape your entire life.

I was born in Waukegan, Illinois and given up for adoption.

Recently, I met my brother — turns out we were born in the same hospital 2.5 years apart,

share a birth mother, and were both given up for adoption.

Crazy how different our childhood experiences were, yet there we were, standing together for the first time in front of that same hospital.

This was a chance meeting. I had flown back to Chicago to reclaim the wounded child from the home where I grew up, in Wayne Illinois.

The First Separation Never Leaves

The body remembers what the mind cannot.

When you're separated from the person whose body created yours — in those first hours,

days, or weeks — something fundamental shifts. The nervous system learns a pattern: connection equals loss.

This isn't about blaming anyone. Birth mothers make impossible choices.

Adoptive parents offer genuine love. But the primal wound doesn’t care about intentions.

It just knows: I was here, then I wasn’t kept.

That original separation creates echoes throughout your life. Why?

Because your body is trying to protect you from ever feeling that level of abandonment again.

Going Back for the Child

The child cannot conceive of soul contracts or higher consciousness truths whilst submerged in the experience of trauma.

It’s a foreign language trying to be understood during a crisis.

To not conceive of this truth is part of the master plan — it becomes a language only you can understand once you find your way to reverence.

You don’t spiritual bypass this. You don’t leap to “everything happens for a reason” before you’ve felt the human truth of it.

The soul-level understanding comes later, after you’ve honored what happened to the child.

Going back means sitting with the primal wound before you try to transcend it.

Sometimes transcending it simply means finding your way back to center from a place of disregulation.

How I Work With This

I first acknowledge it’s a possibility — a beautiful opportunity to be with myself, to earn back my trust.

Then I breathe deep into my adult heart.

I see a thin string from my heart with the intention of allowing it to lead to the pained child — the part of me who is believing she is still unsafe and acting out.

The resonance of this trauma can be revisited over and over as truth until we become devout to transmuting it. If we don’t, it remains.

I accept over and over that the responsibility is mine, the adult, to continually redirect and heal the child with compassion and grace.

This is the work. Not once, but over and over.

Building trust with the part of yourself that learned the world isn’t safe is vital.

The Spiritual Truth Comes Later

Only after you’ve sat with that child — really sat with them, not above them with your spiritual wisdom but beside them in their pain — can you begin to understand the soul level of it.

Maybe you incarnated to heal generational abandonment patterns.

Maybe your birth mother was doing the most loving thing she knew how.

Maybe this wound was meant to crack you open so you could hold space for others carrying the same thing.

But none of that matters if you haven’t first honored the human experience of being left.

Remember, you are here to be human.

We Heal Until We Leave the Body

Adoption runs deep. It is indeed a primal wound... until you accept that it is a primal wound...then go back for the child.

Of course, there are many things to say about soul contracts, higher consciousness truths...

but the human child cannot conceive of these truths while submerged in the experience of trauma

- It is a foreign language trying to be understood during a crisis.

To not conceive of this truth is part of the master plan — it becomes a language only you can understand once you find your

way to reverence for yourself.

I am reverent. To all of us. I am courageous.

I trained my whole life for this day. I am grateful for the gifts my pain has revealed and their mighty purpose.

Thank you, beautiful place, for calling me back to heal and for the honor of reciprocating that healing.

We will all heal until we leave the body — then we will just heal differently.

We are indeed all connected

Whatever we experience, the land and all sentients experience.

Whatever I have experienced, you have experienced.

Whatever you have experienced, I have experienced.

When one heals, we all heal.

Working With Abandonment in Sessions

This is why, in my sessions, we don’t rush past the wound.

I work specifically with people carrying this wound — the ones abandoned at birth, the ones

whose first experience was separation from the body that created them.

We go back together. We find that child. We sit with them.

Not to fix them. Not to tell them it was all meant to be. But to finally, for the first time, let them

know they’re seen. They’re heard. They matter.

If this resonates, you know. Your body knows. That tightness in your chest, that familiar ache

— that’s your wounded child asking you to come back.

I’m here if you’re ready.

Bobbi xo